WHEN did it become cool to be a bitch?Somewhere along the way being a bitch must have come into fashion...it must be the new trend. I see women proclaiming it proudly everywhere these days. It's worn on shirts, talked about in songs and prominently displayed online and in blogs everywhere. Women that take PRIDE in being called a bitch. Even our teenage girls are now walking around hoping someone will see them as spectacular because they choose to call themselves a derogatory term rather than wait for someone else to label them as such (usually with reason).
Sure, at times these females, old and young... attach "cute" little acroynms to try and make the term seem "adorably funny" or somehow "admirable", such as...
"Babe In Total Control of Herself" ...
"Beautiful Intelligent Talented Charming Hell of a Woman"... or
"Beautiful Individual That Can Handle Anything"....
...which to me, defeats the purpose of trying to prove you're such a "badass" that doesn't need anyone and doesn't have to take anyone else's feelings into consideration in your day to day interactions.
If you're going to call YOURSELF a BITCH, then it's most likely got a whole lot of truth somewhere buried in there. I will never see being a bitch as a badge of honor or something to be admired or desired. A bitch is quite simply, a bitch. Not a Babe in Total Control...not a Beautifully Intelligent Talented person and certainly NOT charming...and while you may THINK you can handle anything, in many cases, you're simply covering up a severe lack of personality or self-confidence...or a lack of any redeeming qualities that would make you attractive to anyone, especially on the inside where it counts. Beauty fades...ugly is to the bone.
BITCH n.
1. A female canine animal, especially a dog.
2. OFFENSIVE
A woman considered to be spiteful or overbearing. A lewd woman. A man considered to be weak or contemptible.
3. Slang. A complaint.
4. Slang. Something very unpleasant or difficult.
Look at the definition of the word Bitch. It hasn't changed over the years. It hasn't grown more attractive, less true of some people OR something to strive for. Yet a lot of women now days are bypassing the middlemen (or men that have to put up with them) and simply going ahead and declaring THEMSELVES to be OFFENSIVE.
It's not cute...it's nothing to be admired...or something to make you proud when slapped on the butt from other "bitches" that also are lonely and constantly chasing off everyone in their lives or leaving havoc in their wake everywhere they go and to everyone they touch with their venom and selfishness or need to be the constant center of attention.
Here are 10 traits of a TRUE Bitch..See if they sound like something YOU want to call YOURSELF.
Men...read through these. If a woman in your life acts like this, whether she is proud of it and labels herself a bitch "just to be cute"...she is one. You might want to think about what you are willing to put up with to stay with someone that is this self centered and can only truly care about themselves. This type of person will drag anyone down, always. Personally, I don't want and won't have a bitch for a friend either.
Here are the qualities of the worst species of woman, the Feminus Obnoxium , otherwise known as "the bitch."
Understand the differences between a secure confident woman and a BITCH. Dominant or confident women usually mean well. They may even think that they're helping people that can't speak up for themselves. They honestly believe that their way is better, but they come off as domineering at times. There is no maliciousness intended. They are strong personalities and require a secure confident man to let them be their best and themselves. They do not lack loving characters or personalities. Confidence and arrogance are two different things. One is sexy and desirable, the other trait is not.
The bitch, on the other hand, is pure evil. She cares for no one but herself. She gladly tramples her way through every situation, not caring about who she hurts along the way...it's always just about getting what she wants. To make matters worse, even when her demands are met, she's never satisfied with anything.
If you're in the hands of such a beast, you may already suspect it. But here's the definitive list that might prove it.
She is self-centered
To a bitch, the only person in the world of any importance is herself. Others are merely warm bodies who get in the way of her selfish pursuits. She is the only person affected by a tragedy. The only feelings worth considering are hers. A bitch is so obsessed with herself that she would rather get a manicure than visit your father in the hospital.
No one should have to tolerate this kind of superiority complex -- especially a good man, who tends to be the preferred victim of the bitch.
She criticizes everything about you
Shaming is a common tactic women use to control their men. The bitch takes this to the extreme. By making you feel inadequate in every domain, she hopes to make you lose your self-confidence, then rely on her to do things "right." Nothing is good enough for her, and you are the only one, aside from her bitch friends, who actually listens...So she nags about everything you say and do.
She's cold-hearted
A bitch is typically amoral, adhering minimally to the ethical codes of society while transgressing those that are inconvenient to her. She dismisses civility for her own gains. She's manipulative and scheming, always looking for underhanded ways of taking advantage of people or even hurting them. And as proof that she lacks a woman's gentle soul, she never cries or shows soft emotion.
She expects to be treated like a queen
A bitch is usually a spoiled brat who simply refuses to grow up. She was pampered and adored as a child, and typically given anything she asked for. As an adult, she still thinks she is entitled to everything. She consistently expects car rides, gifts and attention from you. She makes constant demands of people, and never listens to their requests. There is no fixing such a person; it's programmed into her. Only by being denied several times will she begin to get a clue.
She slights you in bed
You want to know just how heartless such a woman can be? Not only does she not appreciate all the effort you put into pleasing her sexually, she also has the gall to ridicule you. But she'll pick the oddest times to do so, such as during an unrelated argument or just randomly in passing. This could be a cruel comment about your size, stamina or technique. More grating still is the fact that she would go crazy if you were to reciprocate the slur.
She treats people like trash
As someone who believes luxury treatment is owed to her, a bitch has no respect for those who do things for her. She's rude to people who work in the service industry, such as waiters and clerks, seeing them not as human beings, but as robots who exist solely to serve her. She talks at them -- not to them.
She has no compassion for people in need, such as the poor or the sick.
"It's their own fault," she'll tell herself and others. More sickening still, she's mean to children, as they are a nuisance and can't do anything for her. And since her existence dwells on envy, she constantly badmouths other women over trivial things, such as their earrings or the way they speak.
She never pays
As she thinks that it is the duty of others to provide for her, the bitch is a tightwad. On dates she always selects expensive restaurants and orders the priciest dish and drink, but never offers to pay. She won't pitch in for gas on trips or for food at a get-together. She buys crappy gifts for others, when she can be bothered, usually expecting you to pay for them. And if you mention any of these things, she'll accuse you of being cheap!
She bosses you around
A bitch's massive superiority complex makes her think people are born to be her servants, especially her boyfriend. As someone who spends a lot of his time with her, she uses you to do all the menial tasks that she doesn't want to. Sometimes she'll even boss you around for the power trip -- just because she can.
She embarrasses you in public
A bitch cares nothing about the feelings of others, not even those of the hapless sap she may be dating or married to. In fact, she uses her man as a punching bag. Sometimes she even berates him in front of his friends, or even hers. She does this either as a power trip, to show others she can, or simply to beat a man's self-worth down to her own level -- after all, misery loves company.
She flirts with other men
This is the most intolerable trait of a bitch, which many men sadly tolerate. She'll tease and allure other men right in front of you, never once considering how you may feel about it. There are no bounds to her search for attention and admiration. And to top it off, she'll wheedle whatever feelings of jealousy she can from you by comparing you to other men.
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It's a strange phenomenon of life. So many good men somehow end up with the cold, abusive woman I just described. They may think they can help her, or even more tragically, they may believe they can't do any better. But no man should have to put up with someone who treats him like a pest. If your woman has any of the forementioned traits, it may be time to seek out a woman who is worth your while. No woman should keep a friend around that has these traits or that treats others this way.
All of us have the capacity of enacting one or more of these traits now and then to a degree. No one is perfect...no one is devoid of mistakes in judgement or temperment at times. The key is NOT to let it be a habit in your lives...something that is a common occurance rather than a rare event.
So, I'm officially stating that I'm not COOL. I don't want to be referred to as a BITCH. It wouldn't make me proud, it's not something I admire. I don't want BITCHES or those that call themselves such as friends (and they usually travel in packs or gravitate toward one another). I think it's demeaning and they are doing a grave disservice to themselves and others around them...unless of course it can provide the true warning to what they carry around inside...and it ain't pretty, no matter the packaging on the outside.
The word BITCH is a term of disrespect, even when you use it to refer to yourself. It's an insult, not a badge of honor...it's not an excuse for behaving badly. It's not cute, it's not hip. I have more respect for myself than that.
I'd rather be called or thought of as a lady, a mom, a classy broad, a charming woman, a mature interesting female, feisty, sassy, strong, outgoing, a seductress or siren. I'll be a cute chick, a confident woman, a sarcastic smart ass, a handful...but you will NEVER hear me refer to myself as a BITCH.
In my world, it will just NEVER be cool to be considered (tongue in cheek or not), a bitch.
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