Seduction, Flirting and Body Language-January 17, 2006

SEDUCTION-

NOUN:
The act of seducing.
The condition of being seduced.
Something that seduces or has the qualities to seduce; an enticement.

FLIRT-
VERB:
To make playfully romantic or sexual overtures.
To deal playfully, triflingly, or superficially with: flirt with danger.

We've all done it. You're out at a party, store or social setting and someone catches your eye across the room. In some cases, they start to approach you...a conversation starts. The the dance of seduction, the art of flirtation begins. Whether you're available or not, the signs are there waiting to be read if we know the language.

While I'm rarely if ever out at a bar by myself...the signs someone is interested in you can come in any setting or situation. If you pay attention...if you look for the subtle signs that people project...sometimes without ever realizing it...you can get a clue as to what a person may be "really" saying to you.

Before you even get up from the couch, a female already knows what you are up to. Before you know it, she tells you there's no more beer in the fridge. You can't hide anymore; she has all your moves figured out.

You're sitting at the end of the bar, admiring a beautiful woman. The next thing you know, your eyes meet. You courageously decide to walk up to her, and before you open your mouth, she tells you that she's waiting for her boyfriend.

If a woman is able to predict your every move, or guess the words that are going to wriggle out of your mouth, you have a problem. You are either too predictable, or your body language is signaling out your every thought to the opposite sex. This is a big problem. You can't allow for women to know every thought that goes through your mind. In the dating game, the element of surprise is the secret to catching your prize.

It's time you learn which signs women look out for in your body language, and how to use this to your advantage. In some cases, you might want to let her know what you are thinking, and in others, it might be a little too risky to divulge your thoughts. It's also time to turn the tables, and read her body language after she has successfully read yours.




Claiming your territory

Women know that you give out four signs when you are interested in them. The signs they look for are:

1. Running your hands through your hair to draw attention to how thick it is, and sucking in your gut.

2. Moving between her and another man to create a more intimate space between her and yourself (you're also creating a wall to block other male rivals).

3. Making excuses to touch her.

4. Your pupils are dilated. If you like what you see, your pupils will actually get bigger.



Her Move:

If she's interested in you, she'll act flirtatiously to show you that she's hearing your signals.

She'll probably give you dreamy five-second gazes, each one interrupted by three to five seconds of looking away. As you become more into her , she'll cut her look-away time in half, until she finally has you hooked.


Tip: If you're single, use these signals to your advantage by consciously signaling to her at the right times. If you are actually out with another woman, try to avoid the top four signs. Remember, your girlfriend/wife will also notice that you're signaling to somebody other than her.



"I want to walk" signals

When you start to fidget -- i.e. making napkin sculptures, peeling the label off beer bottles, or fiddling with a pen -- it usually means that you have something on your mind. Women know this, and they'll be sure to ask you what you are thinking about.



Her Move:

If a woman can tell that you want to start a conversation with her, she'll learn towards you across the bar or table to show that she's open and willing to listen to what you have to say. But, she'll keep her legs crossed to maintain the I'm not that easy below the waist distance .


In-sync tricks

She'll know that you are falling for her if you take a bite of your food, or reach for the bread at the same time as she does. Moving in synchrony is one of the most telling signs of attraction, and it shows that you are on the same wavelength.



Her Move:

She will discretely change her body positions to sneakily observe if you follow suit.
Tip: If you find yourself admiring a beautiful woman (whether at a restaurant, cafe, store or club), try to imitate her every move, but be certain to keep your moves subtle.




Is tonight the night?

Aside from your looks and personality, the next thing women will check out is your posture. If your legs are spread out when you are either standing or sitting, you're basically showing the potential package that you want her to approve of.



Her Move:

If she's interested in you, look for signs such as her touching her hair, revealing her neck, rubbing her wrist and the inside of her arm, and offering a sideways glance.



You are so into her

One important sexual sign that is easy to miss is eye contact. The more eye contact you make before, during, and after making love, the more you want the relationship to get past the stage of simple body contact. Caressing her less erogenous zones, such as her face, are also signs of deep feelings.


Her Move:

She will try to keep her eyes open and ready, so that she can return your "I think I'm falling for you" gaze.

Tip: Stop looking at her breasts and start looking into her eyes.




What are YOUR signs? What moves do you make when you're interested in someone? What do you look for when you meet someone new...or are trying to figure out what someone you know well is really thinking?